Our expert says:
Gay, lesbian and bisexual expert
Hi Mpho and a warm welcome to the forum.
What you describe here is definitely not a fantasy! This is reality - you and another woman are in love with each other. This is certainly a lesbian relationship but you could very well be bisexual.
You're asking us how to take the relationship to a deeper sexual level? It sounds as though you've done very well until now Mpho and I doubt you need advice on how to make love to her. Find a safe, private space where you can both feel comfortable and take it from there. Take your time, explore, indulge and enjoy.
On another level you must also deal with the fact that you're both married. Irrespective of whether with a man or a woman, you're both planning to commit infidelity. I hope you've thought this through and what the implications could be.
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