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Posted by: tokkie | 2007/06/19

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Ek in n groot ding by die werk.Hoop daar is raad vir my.....het n verhouding met n getroude vrou by die werk..ja ek weet dis verkeerd maar ons is baie gelukkig.Ek is geskei sy nie maar baie ongelukkig in haar huwelik.Sy wil skei maar is bang om al haar mense seer te maak want dit gaan n groot skok vir hulle wees.Ek sal haar nie druk om enige besluite te neem nie alhoewel ek haar baie lief gekry het.Wat moet ek maak.Sy het een kind en ek twee.Ons albei aanvaar mekaar se kinders.Ons het regtig lief vir mekaar graak.Ek het gedink die gevoel sal oorgaan maar dit wil nie.Ons sien mekaar skelm en dit voel nie reg vir my.Help asb!!!

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sigh. Relationships with ANYONE at work are risky, and relationships with a married woman / man are always both wrong and risky. There's no rule that says its OK to have affairs with married women so long as they're unhappy at home. The affair will only increase the unhappiness at home, for everyone concerned.
She wont get divorced because it would shock those who know her --- but she thinks it wouldn't shock them to discover she's having an affair ? ( and there's no way it can be kept a secret for long ). Stop the affair, if you care about her, yourself, her kids, your kids, or her husband.
If and when she gets a divorce, you will both be free agents and can then consider getting together again

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Posted by: Spooky | 2007/06/19

The novelty ALWAYS wears off in the end.
Stop what you're doing!

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Posted by: Lola | 2007/06/19

Jyis darem naief!!! As sy haar man met jou kan verneuk, gaan sy presies dieselfde eendag met jou doen. Moenie vir een oomblik dink dit is omdat jy so spesiaal is nie!!

As getroude mense rondkyk, is dit 'n "siekte" wat hul nie ontgroei nie.

As jy jouself vir groot hartseer wil spaar, breek jou verhouding met haar so gou moontlik. Sy is 'n egbreekster..............

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Posted by: Lucia | 2007/06/19

You are playing with fire. No good can come from this - even if she divorces her husband to be with you, there will be too much unhappiness and guilt for you to be happy together.

Break it off. No matter how hard it is. You will get over her if you really want to. The love you feel now is not worth the hurt and shame and guilt that will come.

Talking from experience!

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Posted by: Echelle | 2007/06/19

DUH!

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