Posted by: | 2019/05/15

He feels sorry for his ex-girlfriend who saw us together

I met my boyfriend 4 years ago and at that time he had a girlfriend, but broke up with her. However, recently my boyfriend and I were walking in the mall and we bumped to his ex girlfriend and her sister. My boyfriend acted weird and said he feels sorry that his ex and her sister sees us so happy, I asked why he said that and he said it was because his ex was deeply broken by their break-up, but not that he still loves her. He says he is happy with me, but I cant help but wonder if he does miss or still loves his ex-girlfriend because I did not understand why should he feel sorry that his ex saw us. Should I be worried?

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- 2019/05/15

Let's change the question a bit.  So he has been your boyfriend for some years now.  How would you want him to behave on bumping into his previous girlfriend and her sister ?  What alternatives are on the menu ? 
Doesn't what actually happened suggest he's a nice guy, with sympathy for other people, and he's unwilling to emotionally hurt others ? 
Would you prefer that he was unpleasant, even cruel or cold towards them ?  It seems to bother you that he had concern for her feeling of hurt over the breakup : is that a bad thing ?  Can you rally not understand it ?
Do you think it is impossible for him to feel compassion and concern for someone else's feelings, without loving them ?
You don't suggest that he ever did anything awful, such that he should still be angry with her.
Is it possible that it is you who, for some reason, still has some bad feelings towards her, or that maybe you feel insecure about your relationship ?

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Posted by: Anonymous | 2019/05/20

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