Our expert says:
It sounds like you're both trying to handle this sensibly. Maybe making him describe every single detail, though understandable, gave you far too many details to try to forget ; and while your head recognizes that he didnt intend to be unfaithful or hurtful, your heart still feel hurt and cries FOul!
he does sound like a decent guy who got into a situation which got out of control, and has been honest and tried to make amends ; and it sounds as if you are bothered by finding yourself responding ungracefully to his having been frank about it.
Sounds like you both could benefit from getting involved in god marriage counselling, especially to deal with your excess of anger, with him and with yourself. You had and have good reasons for loving him ; yo had good reasons to trust him --- and for him, until late on that occasion, even to trust himself.
I disagree with Amy. So far as we know, he has not been "screwing around", but there was one episode of terribly bad judgement. And it is not true that "if a person was weak once... they're bound to do it again", or none of us would ever do anything except repeat all of our mistakes. it is possible to learn from experience, even if some of us don't do so very easily.
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