Our expert says:
I supose it is one of the hazards of a long-distance relationship, that it can be raher unreal, and you don't get to discover some of the irritating chaacteristics of your partner. And you are not over-reacting. It's sad that things did not work out. But apparently you did not instruct him or force him to give up his job and come to live with you ; and it certainly wasn't you who made his small business plans fail. For you to have helped him for a short while was kind, but it's outrageous for him to decide to stay with you at your expense for as long as he pleases, not bothering to seek a job, and blame you for his mistakes.
DC says it just right, and I agree with kernel --- he must be told that unless he can become financially independent, he can't expect any competent woman to marry him. I agree with your mum. You are wise to have suggested that he join you in counselling --- and of course, if he really thinks he doesn't have a problem ---THAT is the problem !
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