Our expert says:
I assume that the problem is related to her fears that you are in fact gay or might leave her for a man (or have sex with men whilst married), rather than that you never told her this and she now feels she can't trust you (another possibility which may have a whole different set of responses!).
Many people fear that enjoyment of sexual activity with the same sex by definition makes that person homosexual. I don't believe that this is the case necessarily; it takes much more to being homosexual than enjoying a sexual experience with a person of the same sex...If you are in fact a committed husband who has no wish to pursue sexual activities with anyone else, then you need to reassure her of that - from this perspective it doesn't matter whether your previous partner was male or female! If however, you are uncertain yourself, then perhaps you could give this some thought with a counsellor to help you to clarify your own thinking in this regard...
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