Our expert says:
You need a better trained and experienced counsellor / therapist, to help you realize how your continuing to cling to this hatred harms you and not him. Let him and his family be dead TO YOU --- live as though they don't exist any more, and don't give them the power over you which your hatred gives them. From your description, he was a louse -- celebrate being rid of him. And move on with the rest of your life, without insisting on contaminting it by remembering him.
But do go to the Maintenance COurt and have the court order him to pay reasonable maintenance for the child --- then he wil have to do so.
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