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Posted by: Moedeloos | 2004/10/14

Hart uitpraat!

Ek wil so bitter graag my hart uipraat teenoor my verloofde, emosioneel is hy so ver van my af of so voel dit vir my.

Ek weet nie eers waar om te begin nie, hoe om met hom te praat nie, wat ek voel nie.

Ek het nooit gedink dit kan so moeilik wees om met iemand te kommunikeer nie.

Ek dink nie hy verstaan my werklik nie.

Ek het 'n vorige vriend wat my baie goed verstaan wat ek alles voor kan vertel, ons sien mekaar glad nie, maar hy verstaan my beter as wat ek myself verstaan.

Hoekom kan ek met hom gesels maar nie met my verloofde nie, is dit verskilende persoonlikhede of stel my verloofde nie belang om my behoeftes te vul nie?

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M, try to persuade him to join you in premarital / couples / relationship counselling, to work things out between you two. Either you get things sorted out, or at least you both learn much more about how things went wrong, so you can part, if that becomes the decision, with a better chance of avoiding similar problems in the future.
And dont't marry anyone you feel you can't talk to. Try to sort this out, first.

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Posted by: Diablo | 2004/10/14

U 2- Q and Moedeloos

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Posted by: Q | 2004/10/14

No prob have a lovely day!!! ;-)

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Posted by: Diablo | 2004/10/14

Q - I respect that,sorry

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Posted by: Q | 2004/10/14

Diablo,

If your remark was aimed at me you found me, I right out of experiance and not out of ignorance. I you read everybodies comments all of us told her to first work on it and get things together but failing that before things turn out as in my case she needs to then rather brake because she will fall to that bottum feeder when she is vonerable. Guy like that will be your friend for years and tell you what you whant to hear, she will lose confidance in her partners advise and then nothing will be good as she has said and the next is they start seeing one another again en before she can blinck she will be the cheating other. Please if you do not agree with my opinion dont atack out of ignorance, it is my experiance and my opinion!!!!

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Posted by: Diablo | 2004/10/14

Moedeloos - F..k die mense hierbo hulle is die tipe wat vehoudings op breek omdat hulle te sleg was om na hulle eie om te sien.As jy lief is vir hom praat met hom,wag net dat hy in 'n goeie mood is en laat val die bom op 'n mooi manier.

Moet nie laaste in die "Q" wees nie.Do your magic and keep the man.

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Posted by: NEE | 2004/10/14

jy is nie ondankbaar nie. julle pas net nie. moet nie 'n fout maak nie!

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Posted by: Twanette | 2004/10/14

Ek weet nie miskien was dit die feit dat ek alleen was, ons het begin gesels maar dit het na so paar maande verdwyn.

Nou voel dit vir my asof hy dink ek is kinderagtig as ek oor my gevoelens probeer praat, hy antwoord ook nie eintlik nie, miskien weet hy nie hoe om die situasie te hanteer nie.

Hoe weet mens of die verhouding gaan werk of nie, hy sê van sy kant af is daar niks wat hom pla nie hy is baie gelukkig en ek is die perfekte vrou vir hom, maar wat van my geluk?

Hoekom klink ek so ondankbaar

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Posted by: Q | 2004/10/14

Girl you are looking for a tradegy, if you cant talk to him now what will happen if you get married. Let him go and find someone you can relate to. If you cant do that then you must get conseling and learn to speak to him. there must be a reason why you feel lik this, that old friend is n problem to and he is injecting slow poison into your relationship and he will make a move for you when you are most vonrable and then who hurts who??? Please let your fiance go befor you hurt him rather now than later when there are kids involved. This happened to me when i was married and it almost killed me dont do that to him to. Hope you havent cheated on him already!!!!!! He and you deserve the best and nothing less!

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Posted by: NEE | 2004/10/14

Dis nie 'n goeie ding dat jy so voel nie, en dit gaan nie verander as jy getroud is nie. Ek dink kommunikasie en openlikheid is van die belangrikste dinge in 'n huwelik. Dink mooi hoekom jy in die verhouding is en verloof is? Wat is dit in jou verloofde wat jou na hom toe aangetrokke laat voel as jy sukkel om jou gevoelens met hom te deel?

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