Our expert says:
SOunds normal but uncomfortable. Usually grief lasts at least 6 months, probably more usually 9 months or even more. Sometimes people who handle it more comfortably at first, may find it re-visits and troubles them later. Frief is really hard work, most of the time.
it sounds as though your wife is both a troubled person and a cause of troubles for others, with her ignorant and cruel comments. It is not in the least "pathetic" for someone to continue to grieve for someone they really loved and who was important in their life - it is normal, healthy, and appropriate. To insist on hurrying someone through grief because this would be more convenient for a selfish other person is cruel and should be very strongly discouraged.
Either your wife has never experienced normal grief or she never understood what was happening at the time. It is awful that she apparently is jealous and resents you giving proper attention and time to a grieving mother, just as any good and normal child would do.
There is nothing abnormal about your mother ( though if she is geting nowhere in her grief, she could probably benefit from seeing a counsellor experienced in grief work ) - it is your wife's responses I find harder to classify as normal or desirable
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