Posted by: jenna | 2008/11/02

get over somebody

How do you get over somebody? on average how long does it take to get oer someone if you went out for quite a long time? for instance just under a year? how do you move on after a rekationship? how do you stop thinking '  what if'  and how do you stop the hurt? please give me advice, from personal xperience or from simple general advice. please please xxx

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How long it takes to heal is a very personal thing and is also linked to what happened in the relationship and in the ending of the relationship. However, it also depends what you do next. If you spend a lot of time alone pondering the what-ifs and only thinking about that person and the losses it will also feel a lot harder.

It is important to grieve, as any ending or even change in a relationship is a loss of sorts, but alongside that grieving it is also important to get on with the other aspects of your life and also be open to new opportunities. This can be hard to motivate yourself in, but if you do, you find that gradually you begin to feel stronger and begin to heal.

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Posted by: Hannahhh | 2008/11/03

to be honest, boys get over girls way more quickly, because girls like the attention of boys which means the boys have other girls to get on to. but you just need to go out and have fun with your friends, boys aint everything. i no it seems hard. but maybe you might get over it quicker if you just got another boy? it may not seem write because you will think about that other boy and that, but as soon as your in another relationship it will just fit in, and that other boy will become some man passing in he street. your always going to love him its natural. but lifes too short to wait for a certain guy who doesnt no what hes missing out on. x

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