Our expert says:
The child is more likely to be bothered by any conflict that might arise over these questions, rather than by any particular division of his time between his parents. I'm wondering why his father feels a need to change the arrangements right now ? And the central issue, as i would be viewed by any compeent court if it came to that, would be what is for the bnefit of the child, and whether there is any good reason to change existing arrangements ? You may also need legal advice on the issue of custody and implications of the change the dad proposes which would greatly reduce the time the boy spends with you.
And I like Maria's suggestions of both discussion it with the boy to be sure he understands the implications, and suggesting a trial period to see how it suits everyone involved before deciding.
And she also raises the importat issue of communicating with your ex so the basic ground rules on things like discpline, schoolwork, etc., remain the same, with neither parent providing a "soft option".
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