Our expert says:
Gay, lesbian and bisexual expert
I'm not sure what you mean by "being a real Christian" but is very possible to reconcile being gay and Christian. Not all Christians are homo-prejudiced or homophobic, and not all churches discriminate against the gay community. Often the 'culture' of an individual church is determined by the priest (minister, pastor or dominee) who leads that congregation - if that individual has managed to overcome his/her own issues related to sexuality and has 'seen the light' in terms of how destructive prejudice can be, it is likely that the church will be more accepting of gay people. Some churches, however, claim to accept gay people because "...we're all sinners..." or "... it's my Christian duty to love everybody..." or "...we accept you as a person but don't approve of your behaviour...". I don't think these statements are good enough - they're all somewhat judgmental and arrogant. You need to decide for yourself what you're comfortable with, but there's no need for you to settle for being treated as lesser than anyone else. Some churches have caused great harm to the gay community - don't allow this to continue.
There are also church groups that are totally accepting of diversity, and actively reach out to the gay and lesbian community. Call the Gay & Lesbian Helpline on (021) 4 222 500 any day between 1pm and 9 pm, or the Information & Counselling Line on (012) 344 6560, Monday - Thursday, for a gay-friendly church in your area.
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