Posted by: Bettie | 2012/02/06

Friend''s strange bahaviour

My friend, lets call her Susan is behaving strange. She recently found out that her husband is having an affair. At the moment she is going for counseling.

What is so strange is, that she told that she is furious with her husband and that she is going to divorce him. A few minutes later she told me that she is " using"  her husband to satisfy her sexual needs.

Why would she hate him so much but allow him to make love to her?

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Obviously she needs to discuss this in detail with her counsellor. As Maria says, she is ignoring the fact tghat an unfaithful husband could be giving her STD or HIV. She may think she is getting some sort of revenge by just using him for sex, but that's hardly a mature or wise response

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Posted by: Julia | 2012/02/20

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Posted by: almarie | 2012/02/06

my son is 25years of age he is acting very strange,he look so confused,and doing strange things and can sit and think alot dont want to go to the doctor,he was diagnosed as bipolar but did not take any medication for the past 2years and every time the same time after 2 years he is like this,and swear alot when you talk to him bath alot and restluss he is also smoking dagga iam so confused.

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Posted by: Liza | 2012/02/06

I''m quite sure that her emotions are on a roller coaster at the moment. So her behavior isn''t strange at all. I know from personal experience that''s it''s entirely possible to hate someone one moment and to love them the next. It entirely depends on what is going through your mind at a specific moment. If you''re thinking about the bad things a person has done, you hate them in that moment. Then when you''re thinking about the good things they''ve done, you love them in that moment. The ambivalence is entirely normal.

All she wants from you as a friend, is a shoulder to cry on. Don''t judge her for not being certain about how she''s feeling. This is why she''s getting counseling - to resolve her feelings.

Good Luck

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Posted by: Maria | 2012/02/06

Because they are not making love. In your own words: she is "  using"  her husband to satisfy her sexual needs.

Some people can find satisfaction in the physical side of sex without the emotional connection. Your friend is playing with fire though - what if her husband gives her HIV or another STI, or she falls pregnant?

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