Our expert says:
So, if he was transferred for inappropriate behaviour, the office staff and bosses were aware of the affair. He is not entitled to "refuse" a divorce - he could dispute and fight it in court if he wished, but the divorce isn't his to give or withhold.
If he has said he will do anything ( other than divorce ) to make it up to you, get him to join you sincerely in marriage counselling.
And see a counsellor personally, for your own needs. This is still very fresh and recent, so its not yet that you'll manage to forget.
Work through this in counselling - there are no simple answers or solutions, but it IS possible to work throuigh this and heal yourself.
And try hard not to over-generalise. THIS man in THIS situation cheated and lied - this does not mean that EVERY man ALWAYS cheats and lies. And of course it was equally the faul of the other woman involved, who seems to be enjoying stirring things up. Again, this is horrible behaviour on her part, but not something ALL women do.
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