Our expert says:
30 minutes of exposure to Nitrous Oxide ("laughing gas" ) doesn't sound like a good idea at the best of times. And as dentists have absolutely no training in psychiatry, I very much doubt whether he solved any lifelong issues for you. Such gases may cause confusion and excitement and disinhibition, and who knows, one might come up with some ideas you hadnt faced before.
But yes, you don't have to be like either of your parents, nor do you exist in order to make them happy, though we all probably share some traits with each parent, and pleasing them isnt a bad idea in itself !
YOu don't have to announce these revalations to your parents, merely take them on board and apply them. If your mother persists in giving unwanted advice on child rearing, just tell her calmly and firmly that Thanks but you don't want such advice as you want to do this your own way, and you will ask her for advice when you feel you need it.
If they're some of the people who find it hard to tell you they love you ( sometimes you have to look at what they do, more than what they say ) then so be it. You dont HAve to have them say that. Insisting on unrealistic expectations is like expecting their hair to turn green because you prefer that colour - it just creates a situation for you to feel bad in, and which isn[t at all useful.
You are loveable in your own right, and don't need them to say so, to make it so.
Do see a professional counsellor / psychologist, who can help you to capitalize on these new insights, and help you to live a happier life in yourself and with your children.
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