Posted by: gg | 2008/06/19

Feeling guilty

Dear CS

Problem no 1:

I come from a backround where going to church and religion is taboo. However, for as long as I can remember I would like to belong to a church and I have deceided that I am going this Sunday. Not only do I want to learn more about religion, I also like the social aspect of a church community. Given my non religious backround I feel guilty about wanting to go to church and I fear my family will make fun of my wanting to go to church. My mother was religios and I was christerned, but she died when I was 4.

Probelm no. 2

I feel very guilty about not making time to exercise ever. I know it is good to exercise and I would really like to start, but I never seem to find that starting point. When I have started on the odd occation I gave up soon after. I just don't find enjoyment in it. It feels like a punshment instead.

I am 52 and I feel really stupid and guilty about both these issues. Why am I holding back, when I really want to do both?

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Your family was disrespectful of your mother and her wishes, and of your own interests. Parents and families who themselves don't feel especially interested in religion should allow a child to experience it and learn about it, and make their own free choice, without ever ridiculing the choice the person makes. GO ahead, explore, go to church, and see --- if you find comfort in that way, keep at it and ignore the empty comments of others.
As for 2, its an issue of starting a good habit -- een if only 5 minutes a day at first, then expanding, to make it less of a big deal. Don't start with marathons !

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Posted by: Where | 2008/06/19

Phontie,where in Joburg can i find church of christ?

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Posted by: gg | 2008/06/19

Thanks for your encouragement everyone!!!

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Posted by: Phontie | 2008/06/19

Hi gg
if you are around Gauteng please go and visit Johannesberg Church Of Chris there sister you will find live that church i s not about money but god and your well being...

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Posted by: dot | 2008/06/19

Hi gg
I cant comment on problem #1, but on problem #2 you have to persevere. Go through the motions even though you hate it. Do 5 minutes, but do it. After a few weeks you will actually start enjoying and become addicted like me.

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