Our expert says:
You sound like such a clever and bright and pleasant person, letting yourself feel inferior, by comparing yourself with people who are different. You know there are so many thousands of people who have not achieved even a fraction of all that you have managed already.
Your boyfriend sounds like he's in such a privileged position he could choose anyone for his gf --- he chose you, so obviously he has good taste in maning such a sensible choice. You're studying law --- one of the most difficult courses possible, and you're able to enjoy it, too, something most students never manage. it's not easy, for most people, to adjust to varsity life, especially when one has grown and matured, a you have, and so many varsity students are kids with no experience, and often not taking their studies seriously and just looking for fun.
His friend's gf sounds awfully pretentious and showing off. Yes, it's useful in life, and in business, to be able to speak English with a nice accent --- so use the opportunities to listen to her and learn to do this yourself. But for her to keep speaking English when with close xhosa friends, sounds more like showing off. Its obvious from your message that you use the English language excellently, yourself.
Check out whether there's some counselling available at or through the varsity, as a counsellor could help you gain more self-confidence and to recognize your own excellence, which is probably more obvious to other people than it is to you. It sounds like, as a sensible guy would, he loves YOU, because you are loveable, and isn't bothering about whether or not he loves your parents or brother, or the family fortune.
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