Our expert says:
Sounds like it would be a good idea to send her home --- its raely wise tom issue such invitations open-ended, rather than inviting someone to stay for a week, or a month. THat way, its not a Big Deal to remindthem of when they are leaving.
Apparently she has been given many chances to study and succeed, but has never bothered to take advantage of them. She also may have then formed the view that its up to other people to cope for her and care for her. She is exploiting everyone who has tried to help her, and may have been stealing from her kind boss and from you ( in not paying towards her keep as agreed ). She has been lying. And by suggesting she may be depressed she ios frightening you all from demanding answers to the questions where she owes you anwsers, and manipulating you into continuing to keep her. If she is depressed, she has the responsibility to see a doctor or counsellor ( this is even provided on campus ) and take care of herself.
So long as you keep taking responsibility for her, she will never take responsibility for herself. Nothing you have tried helps, becausde it has been YOU trying it and doing it, and not her. Tell the lazy girl to go home and sort out her own life, and care for yourselves and your own children.
Try searching the web and reading up about Tough Love.
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