Our expert says:
Clearly, the best would be for him to see a child shrink for a proper assessment and advice. Part of the problem may be one of habit, established during the one-bed days --- but that ended 5 years ago --- did you just not get around to moving him then ( great opportunity missed, to make a big fuss about the marvellous privilege now he was such a big boy, of having his own room and his own bed ). Kids don't like changing the habists of a lifetime.
Also, depending on what else may have been happening in the family, maybe he appreciates coming between you and your husband in this way, and separating you ? Is there any reason why that might be so ?
But it also sounds as if he is a basically nervous and anxiety-prone lad, with the long-standing nightmares and bed-wetting --- and the skills of a proper child psychiatrist / child psychologist could greatly help him to overcome this , to the relief of you all. If funding such a referral is a problem, do consider arranging for him to be seen at the Child Psychiatry/psychology division of the nearest medical School ( other than Medunsa, which doesn't have that facility ).
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