Our expert says:
Your sister's behaviour, as you describe it, is disgraceful, and highly selfish. She should seriously consider a sterilization ( I'm surprised if nobody has suggested this before ) 35 is a bad age at which to still be having babies, with an increased risk to the health of the mother and the baby.
And her drunkenness is also able to damage the foetus and then the child. One wonders whether she can really be considered able to properly care for her existing children. To have reached 35 without being able to support herself is really sad.
I understand your strong and admirable sense of loyalty to your sisters, but it would surely be a really major burden on you to have to care for the two extra sisters at your own home ?
If you have been sending money home to your father to support these sisters - why are they going hungry ? Is your money being used in other ways ? If they move in with you, surely the younger one needs to finish school, and of course the other one should get a job and help support herself and the household. Why do so many people expect to have other people work and support them ?
You are entirely right to suggest that the sisters and your father should work to come up with a plan to make them self-sufficient - why can't the 35 year old work and help support herself and her children ? Who pays for all her alcohol ?
Pat's example is a good one, worth considering. Simply agreeing to support someone capable of work forever, is bad for them as well as for yourself.
And Pat is right to emphasize, as you should to your sisters and father too, that if they rely entirely on you, and anything happens to you, who would then look after them ?
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