Our expert says:
I haven't noticed anything needing forgiveness yet, Conc !
Well, you could call her back, about the invitation, thank her for the invitation, and explain that you feel uneasy about accepting it, because of the way you feel about how they treat you and your husband, and ask if she has some suggestion about how that could be changed for the better ? Or Flower's suggestion is even more simple and elegant.
And practice more on that "letting go" exercise you began. When you called back and she didn't respond, well, someone else might have turned up or she'd gotten busy with something else. Nomatter --- you could have left it at that, rather than going ahead with the umultiple calls and messages. You don't have to go to the braai, and don't need to explain yourself or feel bad about it.
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