Im 31yrs and met this DRC guy 2 weeks ago. in fact we used to take the same bus but he says my face looks too serious and strict all the time, and he was unable to approach me or talk to me on the bus.

now he bought a car but i was not aware about this until he gave me lift 2 weeks ago because i missed the bus. he said he has been keep an eye on me for the past 12 months and did not know how to approach me cos he was fearing rejection. he then mentioned that he was happy that i accepted the lift and he was longing for that.

while we were driving he told me that its not easy to make friends in SA and he has been here for 2yrs now and he got a permanent job/ he is staying with his son and the son's mother stays and works in zambia. he did not want to talk too much about his son's mother because my friend was also present.

he then dropped me at my flat and later i sent him a message to thank him. then he called and told me that i can call him anytime if i want to see him or if i need transport or a lift.

we work for the same company as well but not in the same building. so when i needed a lift i ould call him and he assist.

he makes me feel very special and the way i see it he is quiet and reserved and does not talk much.

im falling for him but my religion requires that we marry men who are in same religion. and this guy is not in my religion.

and another thing is that my son's father wants us to get back together and get married but is not working for the past 3yrs and he has his own business. so he sends me money if the business goes well. im glad that im working so i pay all the expenses for the son. he promised that he will pay the chreche but things were not going well with the business. so i paid it for the 10months and he paid for the remaining 2 months. he says just because he is not working, it does not mean that he cant marry me. we had a relationship for 7yrs.

the DRC guy called me this morning. he says he was waiting for me at the bus stop to give me a lift and he cant stop thinking of me. but most important he says he was looking for me because he wanted to kiss me.
i got surprised to hear this because i was hoping he would present his case, eg telling me that he is interested in me and i could answer yes or no. also i do not know if he left a wife in zambia and now wants to take a second wife in SA? this i will not settle for.

i suggested that we meet on saturday so as to talk about all these issues. and the DRC guy agreed.
its hard to sleep at nite cos i think about him all the time.

is this madness or what? please advice