Our expert says:
Some women do do it, you're right - I'm not sure of the proportion though. It is quite normal for women to only have an orgasm on every 2nd or 3rd sexual experience, so the female orgasm is not as reliable as the man's (for a variety of reasons). I wonder whether you could enhance the chances of your husband pleasuring you by telling/showing him what you have already learned about your own response through masturbation - play around with him, take time, enjoy the closeness that such exploration could bring.
Claire - SASHA (www.sexualhealth.co.za)
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