Our expert says:
I fully understand why you'd like a definite answer on which choice would be best, but you probably understand that no-one outside of yourselves, can answer with any degree of certainty.
One wonders what his "personal issues" were. When you descibe him as "crawling back" you suggest that you're still angry about these.
Many guys are ambivalent about pregnancy / faherhood. If the news came as a surprise, he may have had conflicting responses. The idea of an abortion might have seemed like a quick fix, without needing him to think through the important issues of your relationship, at least so suddenly. But of course that's a pretty lousy reason for considering an abortion. Now it sounds as if the idea of fatherhood is growing on him, and as if he actually does want to share this experience with you and contribute support, financial and emotional at this time.
It's still not clear why he doesn't want to come back and re-join the closer relationship with you. Maybe he's thinking mainly of the benefits to the baby ; maybe those mysterious "personal issues" remain to be dealt with. Is he at least working on those issues, with a proper counsellor / shrink, or just waiting and hoping that they'll go away ?
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