Posted by: Nikki | 2009/08/18

Extremely low Libido

Hi there...

I have a very important question 2 ask...i am on the pill Nordette...and i have a very very low libido and even with forplay i cant get it bec of the pill or whats wrng...everytime m bf wants to do it i sigh bec i know i wont be able 2 get wet and i cant orgasm without clitoral penetration...plz help me.... :-(

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Let’s separate two things first: sexual desire (libido) and sexual arousal (lubricating/getting wet). These things often go hand in hand, but do not necessarily need to do so. Many women are able to become aroused (get wet) even with no sexual hunger. It is EASIER to become aroused if you have desire, but it is not essential for arousal.
So let’s just look briefly at the libido issue first. Whilst the pill can reduce libido, so can other things (side effects of other medications, depression, stress, other sexual problems like pain or lack of enjoyment during sex). If you have lost your libido, it may be that you are finding arousal more difficult to achieve because it requires more 'work'/concentration on pleasure sensations and you would have to 'choose' to be sexual rather than feeling driven to be sexual by your hunger.
On the other hand, your arousal may also be negatively impacted by the side effects of some medication (usually not contraceptive pills though), some medical conditions, or inadequate sexual stimulation (and attention to it!).
You need to figure out what the primary problem is and find ways to manage this. You could do this with the assistance of your prescribing doctor, or you could contact a sexual health professional - the South African Sexual Health Association (SASHA) can give you names of professionals country wide - 0860 100 262

Claire from SASHA (

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