Our expert says:
Divorce support expert
It sounds like their father enjoys being with his children and the visitation arrangements are thus not satisfactory. You are very right to be concerned about what is best for your children and wanting to maintain a routine which is detrimental to their wellbeing. Children thrive on routines, however, routines can be redefined if it means splitting their time between their parents.
What you must trust in, although needing a time of adjustments, to have x days with their dad will become their new routine.
What you need to objectively look at is what is best for them. Do they want more time with their dad? that is in fact their right if they do. They shouldn't have to choose and should have the right to love both parents just as they should be loved by both parents.
The arrangements can revised that it remains the least disruptive to the children and that everyone wins with the new arrangements.
A parenting plan could be beneficial and some co-parenting coaching would be of value to both you and their father.
What is above all best for your children is that you and their father are able to communicate about this issue in a civil manner, keeping conflicts away and truly putting the children's needs first.
Should all of the above still be not possible, you may contact me directly for a legal referral.
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