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Posted by: friend | 2007/05/08

explaining death to kids

What is the appropriate way to tell kids age 13, 11 + 8 that their grandmother is terminally ill. They already know about the cancer but not that it is terminal. How many info do they need and at what stage do you give it to them ? Is it a good idea to let them go see the grandmother - they live far away - in order to say goodbye to her ?

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Good responses from Marius and RMC. Be honest, and discuss the situation frankly with them. Admit when you don't know the answers to some o their questions --- none of us have all the answers. It is a good idea to let them see their grandmother for a last time, even if they goodbye saying isn't said in so many words

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Posted by: MARIUS | 2007/05/09

DEAR FRIEND ,
WE HAVE THE SAME SITUATION AT OUR HOME AT THIS MOMENT.MY SONS ARE14 AND 12 AND IDOLIZE THEIR OUPA.HE IS TERMINAL.WE WERE OPEN ,BUT ONLY TO WHAT THEY ASK.CHILDREN ARE PECEPTIVE,SO DONT TRY AND HIDE ANYTHING,AND TRY AND NOT BE TO DESCRIPTIVE.GO AND VISIT,IT WILL BE BETTER FOR ALL INVOLVED ,BUT AS RMC SAYS DONT MAKE IT A FAREWELL,IN TIME THEYLL THANK YOU FOR IT.

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Posted by: RMC | 2007/05/09

Yes, if they don't get the chance are are not informed they may hold it against you. They are all at an age that they should understand what it means if you explain it. And sure it would mean a lot to gran as well. But don't make it a "goodbye" trip. Just a visit.

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