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Gay, lesbian and bisexual expert
Hello to you Marlboro and thank you for this post.
I'm pleased that you guys could talk about his friend's comments, and that you've come to an agreement on this - but that may be too superficial Marlboro. Did he accept responsibility, did he demonstrate empathy for your feelings, could he relate to this scenario from YOUR perspective? Did he show remorse for his compliance in his friend hurting you? This is the content I'd like to see here. You seem to be a seriously good guy Marlboro who could easily be taken advantage of. I understand and respect that he has a few issues - life is a journey of discovering and resolving our issues - but you shouldn't have to carry these for him. You're worthy of so much more.
I didn't realise that you're in Cape Town! I'm impressed that you're seeing a therapist. Usually your individual therapist can't also see you as a couple for couple therapy, so I suggest that if you require a few sessions of couple therapy you contact me at Triangle Project - we are a team of 14 gay and lesbian psychologists and social workers and some of us specialise in same-sex couple therapy. As a non-profit organisation we charge a tiny fraction of the fee charged by private therapists. Call 021 448 3812.
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