Our expert says:
Sorry to ehar of your plight ---within a short space of time you experienced two very unpleasant and shocking events. You have done well, so far, in staging a comeback from your fallback position. Repression is a didgy and still unproven concept, so I dont think you exactly repressed memories of the rape, rather than avoided them, very understandably. One of the unpleasant aftrereffects of a rape, like abuse, can be a devaluing of oneself, and feling unworthy of the love you so richly deserve. See a good local counsellor, NOT one specializing specifically in matters of rape and abuse, as a more general focus, including these and much more, would work better. And avoid like the plague any therapist who believes in Repressed Memories, as they base their work on highly dubious ideas and can do a lot of damage
You have done well in talking about these matters to me, eloquently and succinctly. And so you will eb able to do so with your therapist. If you find it really difficult to get started on the topics you know are so important to you, try writing a brief letter to him/her --- maybe even print out a copy of your message here, and give it to him/her at the beginning of a session. Once you start talking about this, you are likely to feel relief and find it increasingly easier to do so
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