Posted by: sexy | 2009/02/07

Erection &  Stimulation


My wife and I only started having sex after we got married 8 months ago. I am 27 and she is 26 years old. We are still getting used to this new experience, however oral sex and other methods of stimulation have been performed in the past.

My problem is I cannot maintain an erection during intercourse, and most times I am not 100% hard. I do not mastubate, and neither does she do anything to stimulate the blood flow into my penis.

Most times she just lies there and wants me to be rock hard and make love to her.

I would like to also know if there is any thing that she can do to make more blood flow into my penis (eg oral).

Another thing I have done to improve the situation is quit smoking, as I read smoking affects your erection. I have quit 2 weeks ago.

Lastly is there any medication I can take to assist, or do I need a physical check up?


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Dear sexy,

It is quite possible that the normal anxieties you may be experiencing about now having "legitimitaion" to have sex and lack of experience, anxiety about performance and sensing anxiety on the part of your wife are the main factors playing a role. I would suggest counselling with a sex therapist could be very helpful in supporting you as a couple over this initial hurdle.

There are many factors that can contribute to erectile problems other than anxiety. Depression, high blood pressure and the meds, diabetes, prostate problems, psychiatric problems and psychiatric meds, metabollic syndrome etc etc. An appointment with your gp to exclude any physical and other medical possible factors may be advisable.

The information provided does not constitute a diagnosis of your condition. You should consult a medical practitioner or other appropriate health care professional for a physical exmanication, diagnosis and formal advice. Health24 and the expert accept no responsibility or liability for any damage or personal harm you may suffer resulting from making use of this content.

Our users say:
Posted by: Charlie | 2009/02/10

She must also have a chance to ride you.

What about doggy style, i rekon that would work. Try it....

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Posted by: STALLION | 2009/02/09

You and your wife should possibly get rid of a lot of hangups regarding your sexual life. You can get yourself a good book on sex within marriage at a bookstore. You two need to learn how to stimulate each other to a point where both are craving to achieve the maximum out of intercourse. If your wife can get so excited that she will grab your whole naked body in lust, I cannot think that your penis may not get rock hard.

When you mentioned : " Most times she just lies there and wants me to be rock hard and make love to her."  I can only deduct that your wife still has very puritan and Victorian ideas about sex. If my wife acts like that, I may possibly also only get a floppy erection.

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