Our expert says:
Gay, lesbian and bisexual expert
Wow Hartseer, after your previous post this comes as a real roller-coaster - as you say, WHAM!
You must admit that he's treated you and your relationship with gross disdain and disrespect; he’s unashamedly toyed with your feelings. Sorry to say this Hartseer but this guy doesn't evoke any respect or positive regard. To be blunt he sounds emotionally immature and it seems as if he doesn't know what he wants. He definitely doesn't seem to be appreciative of you as a person.
This will obviously sound clichéd but don't worry about your age. 35 is NOT old! A large element of the gay community can be fickle and very superficial at times - but the majority of us are very real people who can look beyond age, materialism and dick size. Obviously you'll need time to mourn the devastating loss of someone you've loved - and the loss of who you were in that relationship - but with sufficient time you'll also realise that you are OK.
Your anxiety is understandable and quite normal but I think you’re doing the vast majority of gay people an injustice – most of look beyond age. And many of us are older than 35 anyway! If you don’t buy into the typical moffie ageist nonsense yourself it will be easier for you to allow others to demonstrate that age is of minor consequence.
Get your head around this and you’ll be fine. And I suggest you break ALL contact with your ex. Move on.
A warm hug to you and please keep posting.
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