Posted by: Amelie | 2005/12/04

Emotional abuse or hormones?

I am 38 years old and has been in a emotional abusive relationship for two years. With abuse I am talking about a man that has manipulated me; constantly accusing me of having affairs and then rejecting me because of his beliefs. In the beginning I handled it ok and he agreed to get help. After 2 years I am exhausted and has broken off the relationship. I started to lose myself - rollercoasting between depression, feeling helpless and completely lost. I started to act unstable - I have never before been unstable,depressed,involve with drugs,alcohol whatever. I have a lot of anger and feel realised I have been carrying someone else's problems -him dumping it on me so that he does not have to face it. My question: could my hormones also have a role here?I have a daughter of six and my cycle is like clockwork every month?Thanks

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SOunds like you were wise to break of the relatonship with the abuser. But the succeeding instability may deserve attention, and you should see a good local psychiatrist for assessment and discussion of treatment options, presumably including counselling of the CBT form. I doubt that your hormones are relevant here, as it doesn't sound as though they have chnged --- it is the changes in your relationship and way of life that are probably challenging you right now

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Posted by: Jax | 2005/12/05

I'm obviously just another layperson but I doubt that your hormones have any role to play. Stock up on a good dose of various Vitamin B supplements - helps combat depression. Or start to see a counsellor and go on to anti-depressants if depression is becoming a problem. We're human, not martyrs who can take everything men throw at us...

Maybe look at your own past/childhood and decide if there was severe dysfunctionality/alcoholism that can now be manifesting itself.

At least you've dumped him - first prize for doing so.

Just remember that "battered woman syndrome" does not necessarily mean physical abuse. Psychological and emotional abuse causes as much harm.

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