Our expert says:
What you have described above, unfortunately is alot more common a reality many couples face, especially at the life stage that both of you are right now.
The factors that contribute to it are also multi-factorial. For many couples the early prerogative and felt pressure from family and society to get married and have children are all encompassing and drive the early stages of a relationship. Once this has occurred the up till then unaddressed realities of the couple's feelings, attitudes, beliefs and values about sex and sexuality come more into focus, past early childhood experiences related to sexuality start to play a more powerful role and impact on the sexual relationship, whilst at the same time for women especially biological, hormonal and physical changes that come with getting older, having had children etc start to also take effect.
I would strongly recommend that you and your wife consider consulting a couples and sex therapist who can offer the two of you a safe and supportive space to talk through and work through what is happening in your relationship right now.
The issues are complex and multi-layered and this forum could not do it justice.
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