Posted by: sunflwower | 2008/10/05

dumped him so why do i feel bad


I guess I just need to vent. I liked this guy who seemed really sweet. well we never formally decided to be a couple and sometimes he never had time to see me, he always had excuses. i would ask him if we can do something and he would have an excuse then he would go and do the same thing with a colleague.

anyway yesterday he pushed me over the edge so i decided that i am better off without him, without telling him outright because i have discussed my feelings with him on several occasions about some of his behaviour.

he called me at 6:00 am this morning and I ignored his call and then he sent me a text later and i ignored it too. i know this hurts because sometimes you have to hurt yourself to help yourself. like in this case so that i would not get used and taken for granted anymore.

its just that it really hurts. i can' t even remember the last time we went to sleep without talking to each other, we speak every night. But i know for a fact that this person does not value me as a person so I just had to walk away. it still hurts so much when i think about it.

I did the right thing though right? I just need to be sure that i did the right thing to save myself for someone better.

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In the popular phrase, it sounds as though he was "not all that into you", so there doesn't seem to have been much of a worthwhile relationship to work on. It makes sense to save yourself for someone better suited to you ; there's no need to be desperate or in a hurry.

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Posted by: SR | 2008/10/06

He does not know where he is right now.
Him wanting to contact you is just a reaction to your rejection.
If you let him in now he is going to revert to not knowing where he is again .... vicious circle

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Posted by: oza | 2008/10/06

Your post has double meaning, your looking for affirmation that you did the right thing, if you believe you did the right thing then it is.
Reading your piece I would have dumped him long ago, you are a individual with needs like anyone, he was not from reading your piece doing much for you he comes across as selfish and self cantered and will not change.
I take it you where intimate with this person but on his terms and conditions in other words did he use you for his pleasure ? then you did do the right thing.

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