Our expert says:
I know what you mean, though having a lot of time on my hands, is not a problem I've faced since around the age of 2 ! But you've made good use of your own time, and a valid and perceptive observation. Maybe because your parents didn't allow you to gain experience and social confidence while you were at school, you may have had some mild social anxiety, and used alcohol to reduce that. Counselling would help you to gain self-confidence that wouldn't depend on chemicals like alcohol. People may well enjoy you more when you're relaxed, not necessarily alcoholically so. SO substitute REAL courage for the Dutch courage ! Work on more natural and lasting ways of getting rid of your social anxiety permanently, and then drink, when you do, purely for pleasure, stopping before drunkenness ( at which point you no longer even know if there's pleasure involved !).
Interesting that Savanah / Hunters Gold are now popular here. As Cider, they were our staple brew as students in the UK, where it's even better and cheaper !
There's nothing wrong with drinking alcohol in moderation, so long as you are able to keep to the moderation --- it may even have health benefits in modest amounts. So long as you are using the chemical rather than it using you, you're probably all right. And you absolutely do need to develop and retain the ability to have loads of fun without booze.
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