Our expert says:
SOunds like he never forgets, but hardly remembers accurately. And as you emphasize, he believes himself, which is the main thing his stories are for. Alcoholics rarely admit that they are one, but if they can manage that, they can only then start to control it. If you want to try to heal the marriage, then both of you would need to see a marriage counsellor. Maybe his "three people" are in AA, as shrinks rarely function as a trio.
Maybe it would profit you both if you used the fact that he does seem to have been seeking some sort of help, and that he is claiming even 2 days sobriety as an achievement, as a lever to move him towards marriage and maybe also personal counselling, and to push him towards feeling obliged to keep up this initiative and remain sober.
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