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Gay, lesbian and bisexual expert
Hi Dreamer, welcome to our forum and thanks for your post.
I think Deeve said it very well - having a crush or sexual fixation on someone is quite normal. You love your partner, which is very different. Would you have told your partner if you'd had a wet dream about some hunky actor or George Bush? Sorry I couldn't resist that but the point is that sexual fantasy is normal and there's no need to share all of these with your partner. If your fantasies about your partner's brother disturb you stop yourself from masturbating to them. Our fantasy worlds are dynamic and those that are constructed around an individual invariably fade pretty soon and are replaced by fresh content. So mine is a 'don't tell' vote.
Also, there's nothing wrong or abnormal about your finding a woman attractive or arousing. As we've often stated here, we're all located on a continuum between being totally straight and totally gay. Don't be scared of this, but if you feel inclined to act on your impulses you may have a problem in terms of your current relationship. Until then, chill and enjoy those fantasies (unless they involve George Bush, in which case you may already have a problem).
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