Our expert says:
Its hard to respect someone who refuses to try to sort out interpersonal problems, and who insists on a divorce without trying marriage counselling and a search for solutions. And someone who sees it as entirely about themselves, rather than about all 3 of you.
Sometimes such a person refuses to work with proper help because she fears findin a solution. Sometimes they're yearning for an ill-defined something out there which they are highly unlikely to find, but insist on trying to strive for. And they may fear thant in counselling, the essential emptiness of their quest may be unomfortably exposed.
Of course you want to know what this is actually about - whether or not she'd want to tell you, Iwonder whether she could, whether she understands it herslef. She sounds rather immature and confused.
Are the pair of you alone in the world, or are their parents and other relatives on her side who you could approach, who might usefully encourage her to try to be more grown-up about this ?
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