Our expert says:
Hi Rudy, I understand your problem, and applaud your interest in being as independent and capable as possible. Your mom may well be right about trying hard for each of you to find regular and secure employment, as a basis for being able to afford to be married. Nobody finds it easy to find work, these days ; but the law has changed and continues to change, in the direction of requiring busineses to hire a proportion of handicapped or disabled people. Have you checked with the Dept of Labour about this ? They should be able to advise on these regulations, and otherwise to be helpful. Check with the Dept of Welfare, both to be sure you each get whatever possible grants apply, and whether that dept can help with FINDING jobs for disabled folks, maybe even for training to qualify you for better jobs.
Depending on the nature of your problems, and of hers, check out whether there is any national organization dealing with those conditions, which also might be able to help, with advice and support.
I understand that you've been finding the situation disheartening, but I know that you can manage to handle this and to eventually achieve what you want. Don't give up.
Good advice, too, from DBB. read it carefully.
reading your further messages, you seem to have done rather well if your last major episode was 6 years ago ; and people should be prepared to consider you for any job you're capable of. Maybe soomeone can help you present yourself better at job interviews --- you might be very good in a more computer-oriented job. I wonder whether the National Federation for mental Health can help here ? And schizos do cry, and don't feel ashamed of doing so. We can't all manage to be brave all the time.
What about our other readers ? Wasn't there one or two folks among our regulars who were suppoed to work in relation to finding jobs in IT ? With this guy's history of 6 years of stability ( gosh, let's be fair, that beats the record held by many of our regulars ! ) he ought to be fine for such a job.
As for exchaging CV,s etc., Rudy would need to give an email address --- maybe advise him on getting himself a free one with one of the free e-mail services, so he can make two, one to keep as his confidential own address, and one to use in situations like this, which he can give publically --- then if he can save a CV or similar docs in a text format, he could either paste their content ( cut and paste ) into an email to you, or attach it as a text attachment.
And as for calling Mark, even if his place, which sounds good, isn't what you need right now, he may know of somewhere closer to you, maybe even somewhere where your gf could go, too, so you could be together ?
Good luck, and keep in contact with us here on the forum, and let us know how you're getting on.
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