Our expert says:
Any husband that has to remind his wife who bought the pots and pans, sounds more married to his credit card than to his wife. While he is handling this situation badly, from the sound of it, it does seem clear that he FEELS thast you don't respect him, even if he fails to notice the extent to which he disrespects you. You could try making him feel respected, not as a way of capitulating / surrendering, but as a way of modelling for him, showing him how it is done. And perhaps, in talking with him ( NOT during an argument, when no useful talking gets done ) talk about how it must be hard for him to show respect for you when he has not been feeling that you respect him, and that you are trying to break this vicious cycle between the two of you, and would really appreciate it if he would also try to make you fel more respected --- because that would be best for both of you.
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