Our expert says:
Your decision sounds entirely justifiable, for all of your sakes. He will not stop drinking or drugging on his own, and especially not when he has a loving partner who he can persuade to tolerate it. If he wants to blame his financial woes on you and your daughter, then of course your absence will enable him to sort them all out promptly and thoroughly. And if he can't maybe he'll realize the true author of his woes. Dont give him a single brass cent for his "financial woes" which are not caused by you and not your responsibility. Has he ever thought of how much less these woes would be if he spent nothing on booze and drugs ? Whatever you gave him would probably be spent on booze and drugs, anyway. If you feel you should pay anything towards his rent for a month or two, arrange to pay it directly to the landlord, rather than giving any of it to him.
Do not go back, expect little but trouble from him, and consider getting a restraining order from a court to forbid him from harassing you or the child.
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