Our expert says:
Of course it's normal to want to talk about anything that is important to you. But there may be issues of the appropiateness of the person you choose to talk to, the time and the place. One of the reasons why counselling is important is that it provides a safe place and a special time and person with whom you can talk through anything that bothers you --- and with someone who is capable of understanding and making helpful suggestions.
It probably does represent a positive stage of healing that you now fel able to, and want to, talk about the experience. But again, this is mainly what counselling / psychotherapy is for. Talking to friends may feel overwhelming to them --- you would be distressed, and talking about awfully distressing experiences ; and, having normal human feelings, they would be disturbed and bothered by what they ehard--- and feel the urge to help in some way, more than by simply listening, even if that might be all you actually wanted from them. Feeling incompetent to do anything useful or appropriate in response to what they heard, many people prefer to withdraw from the experience, because it is very uncomfortable to feel useless in the face of such distress. This, again, is where a counsellor / shrink is able to handle the experience in the way that ordinary friends often cannot.
And, an extremely important task which the shrink has, is to help you not just spend months or years spinning your wheels in the mud, merely talking ABOUT what happened, but talking it THROUGH --- working through the events and the conclusions you have drawn from the experiences, revising these conclusions and assumptions about yourself and others, so as to be ale to move on, free from being shackled to events of the past, and free to get on with enjoying the rest of your life to the full.
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