Our expert says:
Depressed people tend to give up hope, even though they have a very treatable disease. CBT style counselling can help a great deal, as can antidepressants - but the meds need to be taken exactly as prescribed, and take 2 weeks or more to show their benefits. So taking one or two nopw and then is useless, and probably even worse than useless if the failure of a couple of tabs to produce miracles helps to convince the person that nothing can help.
Suicide is a real and sinificant risk in anyone with depression, and must be taken seriously. And when someone who is depressed and suicidal begins to give away their belongings, and/or to trty to end relationships " so the other person won't get hurt" this is usually a really sinister sign.
And being a gun-owner increases the risk, too.
You may need to tell both parents ( and any other potentially helpful relatives and friends ) that he is seriously depressed and potentially suicidal. Of course that will be upsetting news for them, but much less so than discovering this after he has killed himself.
Try to reach his doctor and report this concern, and see what he might recommend.
And talk to your friend whenever you can, not putting an emphasis on trying to revive the relationship ( which may seem right now more of a burden than he can face ) but emphasize that you love him unconditionally and will continue to do so, and that you are anxious that he recognize that his despondency and misery is due to a very treatable disease which needs proper, serious, treatment urgently. And from a psychiatrist.
Don't let him see whoever is foolishly and irresponsibly giving him anabolic steroids.
As to causes, the high stress job is almost certainly a significant cause. The steroids can also contribute significantly, both to lower sex drive ( though depression alone does this ) but they are also rerally bad for one's brain and can add to the burden of depression.
See if you can persuade him. A doctor can, if he believes there is a significant risk to the person's life, and especially with the support of people who are legally their next-of-kin, even arrange for compulsory admission and treatment if needed, but this is worth avoding if at all possible, as loving persuasion is best.
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