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Posted by: Gerda | 2007/08/21

Depressie

Ek is ‘n jong dame in my vroeë 20’s en het ‘n kêrel ‘n jaar jonger as ek. My bekommernis is dat hy aan depressie ly. Ons gaan maar nog net ‘n paar maande uit, en dit is ‘n langafstand-verhouding. Asook dat dit ons altwee se eerste ernstige (nie-seksuele) verhouding is. As hy nie vir my gesê het dat hy aan depressie ly en antidepressante drink nie, sou ek dit nooit kon raai nie.

Die vraag is nou; hoe werk depressie, en hoe moet ek dit hanteer? Ek is so bang vir die dag wat hy net sal wil tou opgooi in ons verhouding, al is daar geen rede of al gaan dit uitstekend in die verhouding. Ek kan wel sommige dae hoor hy voel ‘n bietjie negatief, maar dit is so moeilik om so iets oor die telefoon te hanteer. Ons sien mekaar minstens twee naweke 'n maand. Wat maak ek? Wat sê ek?

Hy het ook al gesê dat hy die antidepressante gelos het en na ‘n sekere tydperk weer erg depressief geraak het, en weer die antidepressante begin drink.

Wat sal gebeur as hy sy pille netso los? Wat moet ek doen? Wat moet ek juis NIE doen nie? Ek het hom lief en sal hom nie wil verloor deur iets soos depressie nie…

Baie dankie vir die raad!

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HI Gerda,
Well, the primary responsibility is for HIm to handle his Depression. Personally, I think that CBT ( Cognitive-Behaviour Therapy ) if available where you are, is the best treatment in many ways, as it is a psychological method that helps him to gain control over the negative habits of thought and gives him more control over the depression in general. Antidepressant meds also help, of course, and the combination may be even better.
There's no good way YOU can "handle" his depression, especially by telephone, other than by being kind and understanding, and letting him talk about whatever is troubling him IF he wants to.
It sounds as though he may be back on antidepressants (ADs), and hopefully this will help him to get out of the current episode of depression.
When someone has a real episode of Depression, they need to remain on the ADs for at least 6 to 9 months, otherwise the risk of the depression returning if they stop before then, is rather high. Its best if they work with their shrink to decide when and if to stop. If someone has had several such episodes, it may be adviseable for them to remain on the ADs long-term

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