Our expert says:
Why did your older brother and sister choose to have babies when they were not able to support themselves, let alone babies ? It's one thing to feel commited to helping your family to a reasonable extent, but not to support them in luxury expenses. I don't see why you should necesarily support their kids, which they did not have to have ; now in major luxuries like a hairdo for your brother's baby mama. Effectively you are paying all those expenses, and apparently your lazy siblings do NOTHING ? Why can't they get a job, ANY job at first, so as to earn money to support ehemselves and their children ?
And why on earh do YOu have to fetch the kid from school and bath him and feed him ? Are your brother and sister paralyzed ? I also don't see any point in someone spending most of every day at church, while neglecteing their own family --- there are excellent reasons why your mom should spend less time at church, and more time behaving like a Christian and looking after the children. Are you having to pay for her to afford the luxury of spending all day at church every day, too ?
Your brother and sister are unlikely to respect you so long as they see it as unnecessary, and so long as they can expect you to just carry on pouring money into them.
Burden is NOT a bad word to use, but an accurate description of the deadbeat bums you seem to be lavishing your moeny on. For you to pay for your sibs to finish their schooling so they could get a better job, might be fine --- to pay for hairdos and babies, is nonsense.
I agree with BPD, you need to severely set boundaries and limits, or they will always expect more and more.
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