Our expert says:
Surely this type of job must be depressing and at least upsetting to any intelligent and normally sensitive person. I don't see why one would assume he needs to have anything else to feel guilty or disturbed about. He is dealing with people in unfortunate situations, some of whom have fallen into debt through no fault of their own, unexpectedly losing a job, for instance. They're not thieves or rapists. and even if what he is asked to do is legal, he knows it will hurt not only the debtor but their spouse and children, and he'd be a rather nasty character if he enjoyed his work.
Its easy and obvious to say that he shouldn't get emotionally involved, but its very understandable that he does. And that its not easy for a basicall nice person to become hard-hearted and callous just because it'd be more comfortable for him if he could do that.
Is there any medical aid asociated with his job ? IF so, especially, he should arrange to see a shrink or other counsellor, to assess how this stress is affecting him, and to discuss th best ways to help him deal with it. And meantime, be more understanding and sympathetic, encourage him to talk about his work, and agree that these are sad and difficult situations. You don't have to feel you're ebncouraging everyone in the country to go into debt by doing this - you;ll be supporting your husband and helping to share the burden he carries.
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