Our expert says:
THat a psychiatrist was consulted before suggests that there have been ongoing problems with this child ; though I wonder why the psych felt it wise to encourage the relationship with her aunt. But if nobody suspected a romantic relationship at the time, this was presumably advice given without any idea that what has happened, might happen. So it was presumably not actually "enabling" this, except acidentally - and that shrink is probably no more deserving of condemnation than you are.
If indeed there is a lesbian relationship existing with the aunt, this is a serious matter, not because it is lesbian, but because it is predatory for the aunt to become thus involved with an under-age child, and one who she knows well is troubled.
You might well want, anyhow, to get a second opinion from a fresh assessment of the child by another shrink, preferably a child psychiatrist who works with young adolescents. If this can be someone who works at Tara or some similar institution, admission would be easily aranged, IF needed.
If the child needs admission, anywhere, a request / referral letter from a GP should suffice, though she would obviously need to be admitted under the care of some appropriate shrink, who might well want to assess her before deciding about admission.
If the aunt is also sharing drugs with the child, and shoplifting, she is clearly a highly irresponsible person engaging in more than one variety of criminal activity, who should not be allowed any further access with the child - but not for this to be done in a way that might encourage any further dramatic acting-out by the child.
Hospital admission may not be as essential as you seem to think, as the issues may need to work with her in her home and school setting, to enable her to return to more wholesome activities in her real life setting.
The right way round, to do the best for all of you, isn't to start by assumin admission is essential and then working backwards from there, but getting her an independent fresh assessment by a suitably experienced child psychiatrist or child psychologist, and then following their advice.
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