Our expert says:
Is she getting enough pleasing attention from people when she is goodm and when she doesn't lie ? Behaviour such as you describe is often attention-seeking, and even negative and nasty attention is preferred to no attention.
"WHY>" questions are very natural, but actually very hard for anyone to answer, and rarely useful. Seeing a psychologist for an assessment of the child and the situation would be a good idea, and useful. What will probably be needed is a frank discussion between you and her, assisted by the shrink ( who, as recommended by the school, will surely have much experience of this sort of problem in children of this age ) and a planned routine of how you will respond to such behaviours, so as to help her switch back to behaving properly.
Did anything significant change in her life about the time she began noticeably behaving in this way, and stealing, etc. ?
And you can set up a set of rules she must sign up to, of penalties for each lie and each wepisode of stealing, including losing privileges and pleasures she likes, such as TV time, computer time, and game time. Dont take away EVERYTHING for a minor breach of the rules ( simply because then you have nothing else to take away if she does it again !)
Do return to this forum after the session(s) with the psychologist, and tell us what is happening, as your experiences will be useful to other readers
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