Our expert says:
Thanks so much. In many ways, isn't it, our grief is primarily for ourselves--- for what WE have lost. I know she made it clear she did NOT recommend advanced age to anyone, and was very frustrated by her steadily increasing limitations. As Stuart Alsop wrote about his own terminal illness : "There comes a time when a dying man needs death, like a sleepy man needs slep", and I have tried to remember that.
The intense physical labour of caring for her was mostly a privilege and a pleasrue to be able to help ; and towards the end, wven on the days she wasn't speaking, those bright blue eyes wouild gaze at me like a friendly and caring puppy.
And by the way, I decided to share this grief, n ot out of any sense of exhibitionism, but because I hope it may help others, both with their own various griefs, and to get some lesser problems more into perspective
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