Our expert says:
Its not wholesome to lead one's life entirely according to the expectations of others, or excessively fearful of disappointing them. What you did was in some ways noble and even heroic, facing up to mistakes you made and trying to protect and care for someone else. But these seem to be numerous ways in which this may not have been the best for her, let alone for you.
Maybe it would help for the pair of you to spend some time in marriage / couples counselling --- not necessarily to glue you back together, but to explore, so each of you can understand yourselves and each other, much better, and then make a wiser decision about the future. I'm sure you'll discover many concerns she has had and not voiced, too. If perhaps you both find a way to enjoy being together, you might decide to continue working on repairing this marriage. But if you recognize, together, that this arangement, though well meant on both sides, is not bringing happiness to either of you, you may well decide to part. without bitterness. Your parents might be disappointed, but preventing that cannot be the paramount factor. If they really care for you, they must adjust to whatever will be best for you
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